I think this may well be the saddest blog update I have ever written!
My last post back in August informed you all I had met the most wonderful man a girl could ever hope to meet. How wrong I was............
All the promises of marriage, babies, never going to leave me didn't come to fruition. In fact he completly lived up to the navy tales of a girl in every port, living a double life blah blah blah.
Let me say first of all this man was the ultimate love of my life, I fell hook, line and sinker. He was kind, considerate, caring, passionate, no man has ever made me feel how he made me feel and probably never will again. He was, and still in my eyes is, amazing, even after everything he has said and done I know that he is all I want.
Let me take you back to the beginning............. the first 5 months of this relationship were all a girl could ask for, a man that whisked you off your feet, made you feel like so special, so loved, all was perfect. Promises of marriage etc and then he went on tour.........
Newcastle was the last leg of the tour, the last week of October 2011. It was always a worry, people like to wind you up when you have a bloke in the forces, but even so I trusted him implicitly. Apparently 34% of men cheat on their partners if they visit Newcastle, but not my man, surely not?! How wrong was I!!
A girl who not mistakenly could be taken for Miss Piggy without the sweet innocent voice came into his life and made our relationship take a completely different route. You may think "what a mug" with the next part of this post, but I have known since the week he came home, back in November that he hadn't been faithful, yet I chose to ignore it. I chose to think it was just one kiss and nothing else, I knew it wasn't but hey if you choose to be with someone in the forces you kinda have to expect something like this (apparently).
What I didn't know is that she isn't the only one! This all came out last night when he decided he couldn't trust himself anymore. Not forgetting that only last week he met this dirty geordie temptress and kissed her again! But of course, she has nothing to do with this feeling! Not even when I waved him off on his 'lads night out' last week knowing exactly what he was about to do and who he was about to meet did I face facts that the love of my life was actually a heartbreaking liar who really couldn't give a shit that he was smashing my heart to pieces. But then I find out that he has kissed yet another girl but this time in my home town! Why do men not understand that when you lie to someone who you have spent some much time with they can tell!!!!!!!!!!!!! He even tried to lie about all of it again last night! Sorry hun but you can't lie for shit!
Can I just give those of you who can't keep it in your pants some advice, if you going to cheat follow these tips:
1) Do not advise your girlfriend you have been tempted and got their phone number
2) Do not add the girl in question to your social networking profile (even when the low moraled, dirty alley cat has a boyfriend)
3) Do not give out your phone number
4) Make it a one night thing, who the hell thinks they can meet and carry on an affair with someone! YOUR ALWAYS GOING TO GET CAUGHT!
There are a lot more clues, hints, tips I could give you but I think those of you who get up to this sort of behaviour probably can't read past the number 4 so I kept it brief.
Women are clever, much more than men give us credit for. How dare a man think he can insult our intelligence by thinking I wouldn't notice. No woman who loves their man would not notice a difference.
Now you would think that when a girl finds out that the love of her life is a cheating rat that she would be in floods of tears all the time wouldn't you? Nope, the only time i've cried is when I confronted him about the first time, which was about 6-7 weeks after I found out. Then today, wow the flood gates have well and truly opened to the point where I don't think there is a drop of fluid left in my body to cry out!
I always imagined that when this eventually came out that I knew, that this blog post would be a masterpiece, something that would really name and shame him. But now when it's actually happened I just can't say anything other than how disappointed and devastated I am. Revenge is sweet but I just don't think it would make me feel better at the moment.
Whilst this blog was started because I was getting over my long term ex, with him I think the devastation was more I would miss the habit, my normal would never be normal again. Yet with this one, I am devastated because I'll miss the person, I have never got on with or loved anyone the way I loved him. Even after knowing that he has cheated on me not once, not twice but three times, if he knocked on the door now I would welcome him with open arms.
Your reading this thinking, "where on earth has Sue gone", "Sue why haven't you punched him in the face like you would normally", "Sue, what would you say to your friends if this was one of them" - the answer is quite simple really,
I love him........... more than anyone could ever imagine..............
Sunday, 15 January 2012
Wednesday, 31 August 2011
Where have I been and whats new!
Tuesday 12th April!! My last blog update! If I have any readers left you must be totally disgusted in my lack of loyalty to the blog since then.
My apologies but I do have a very interesting update tonight, first off both myself and my partner in crime have met men! Proper, actual, real men! I know it's hard to believe but in the space of a couple of weeks we had both met men who seem to be turning out as totally amazing, nice gentlemen.
I can't update to much about AJ's without her permission but needless to say it's going VERY well.
Mine on the other hand, well I'm not holding back on the information i'm about to enter in this post.
Navy, 26 (only slightly younger), Scouser (gotta love that accent), 6ft 1 1/2 (taller), cooks, cleans, and is the one of the nicest men i've ever met. In the whirlwind 3 months we have been together we have been on holiday abroad, met both sets of in-laws, he's even passed the test of meeting my friends and surviving! I'll even go so far as to say i'll bet my bottom dollar i'll have a ring before the year is out! In fact I may go to Ladbrokes and see what odds I can get!
I thought my days of actually finding someone to settle down with had passed and I'd had the one serious relationship I was ever going to get in life but whilst it's only been 3 months it feels like years. We have so much in common, he is like the male version of me. Everything we say, think, do is the same, it's actually quite scary for others to know there is a second version of me out there but there is and i've found him!!!!
I think the blog may take a different turn now i've become a navy girlfriend (NAG) it's not quite as attractive as WAG but you have take what you get I suppose.
Just how do you cope with a man in the forces?
The longest he has been away is 3 weeks but I managed to speak to him pretty much every day as he wasn't far from land and by the miracles of mobile technology was able to communicate. Then came summer leave and we spent every single moment together, now he has has gone back and delivered the news to me that on Monday he is going away for 2 weeks, he will more than likely be on duty the weekend he gets back and then they are going away for 6-8 weeks. So it will be a minimum total of 8 weeks most of which he won't be able to phone so it will only be email communication when the computers are working. So what I would like to know is how on earth do you get through it when they go away. To go from spending so much time together to nothing is quite scary, whilst we haven't been together long I can't remember what life was like without him. How do you cope? I am dreading Monday morning, saying goodbye just for a few days is hard enough but this feels like a lifetime that we will be apart.
Bloody typical, I've met an amazing man yet he's away all the time, I've already told him I am compiling a list for when I manage to corner the captain and explain to him just what I think of the unacceptable amount of time away. I think he will keep me away at all costs now, let's face it, it's pretty likely I would actually have that conversation.
My apologies but I do have a very interesting update tonight, first off both myself and my partner in crime have met men! Proper, actual, real men! I know it's hard to believe but in the space of a couple of weeks we had both met men who seem to be turning out as totally amazing, nice gentlemen.
I can't update to much about AJ's without her permission but needless to say it's going VERY well.
Mine on the other hand, well I'm not holding back on the information i'm about to enter in this post.
Navy, 26 (only slightly younger), Scouser (gotta love that accent), 6ft 1 1/2 (taller), cooks, cleans, and is the one of the nicest men i've ever met. In the whirlwind 3 months we have been together we have been on holiday abroad, met both sets of in-laws, he's even passed the test of meeting my friends and surviving! I'll even go so far as to say i'll bet my bottom dollar i'll have a ring before the year is out! In fact I may go to Ladbrokes and see what odds I can get!
I thought my days of actually finding someone to settle down with had passed and I'd had the one serious relationship I was ever going to get in life but whilst it's only been 3 months it feels like years. We have so much in common, he is like the male version of me. Everything we say, think, do is the same, it's actually quite scary for others to know there is a second version of me out there but there is and i've found him!!!!
I think the blog may take a different turn now i've become a navy girlfriend (NAG) it's not quite as attractive as WAG but you have take what you get I suppose.
Just how do you cope with a man in the forces?
The longest he has been away is 3 weeks but I managed to speak to him pretty much every day as he wasn't far from land and by the miracles of mobile technology was able to communicate. Then came summer leave and we spent every single moment together, now he has has gone back and delivered the news to me that on Monday he is going away for 2 weeks, he will more than likely be on duty the weekend he gets back and then they are going away for 6-8 weeks. So it will be a minimum total of 8 weeks most of which he won't be able to phone so it will only be email communication when the computers are working. So what I would like to know is how on earth do you get through it when they go away. To go from spending so much time together to nothing is quite scary, whilst we haven't been together long I can't remember what life was like without him. How do you cope? I am dreading Monday morning, saying goodbye just for a few days is hard enough but this feels like a lifetime that we will be apart.
Bloody typical, I've met an amazing man yet he's away all the time, I've already told him I am compiling a list for when I manage to corner the captain and explain to him just what I think of the unacceptable amount of time away. I think he will keep me away at all costs now, let's face it, it's pretty likely I would actually have that conversation.
Tuesday, 12 April 2011
Gullible is an understatement!
Towards the end of last year my ex and I started to talk a bit more, nothing in it but he made a statement at one point that now we had gotten through the hard part we would be friends for life. I even started to think we might be, we were able to hold a conversation without me either wanting to snog his face off or cry. Well it would appear that he played me for a bit of a fool!
His lovely sister who I've known as long as i've known him is getting married this year, we still catch up, get drunk, have a laugh and get on. Sadly last time I saw her she revealed she wasn't able to invite me to her evening reception at the request of the bro (the ex).
Apparently he wouldn't be able to relax, i'm rather disappointed at this. I feel like i've been a complete fool thinking that we could ever be friends, foolishly I thought we were grown ups now and considering all the hurt and pain he caused me last year I still have the good grace to speak to him and hold an adult conversation. I've helped him out with advice on various things and really thought we had gotten past all the 'issues'. Evidently not!
I'm not interested in going to the wedding to make him feel awkward or to see my 'competition' squirm - she won. She got everything I ever wanted in speed of lightening time, and now I can't even celebrate a good friend of mines wedding because of this.
I've tried to call and text him to discuss the reasons why he has requested my presence not to be there but rather conveniently he has now chosen to ignore my calls. I feel a bit sad that he thinks it's ok to pick up a friendship with me just when he needs help with something, if this isn't the case it's certainly how it feels right now.
I really don't know what happened and why he has turned sour grapes on me, but what I do know is that sometimes he takes an interest in the blog and reading about what a miserable love life he has caused me. I'm hoping he might read this one and just maybe understand that whilst I am still on my own it's not because i'm still lusting after him, it's because i've made a choice and not just settled because I feel I have to.
Perhaps then he might rethink his decision........................
His lovely sister who I've known as long as i've known him is getting married this year, we still catch up, get drunk, have a laugh and get on. Sadly last time I saw her she revealed she wasn't able to invite me to her evening reception at the request of the bro (the ex).
Apparently he wouldn't be able to relax, i'm rather disappointed at this. I feel like i've been a complete fool thinking that we could ever be friends, foolishly I thought we were grown ups now and considering all the hurt and pain he caused me last year I still have the good grace to speak to him and hold an adult conversation. I've helped him out with advice on various things and really thought we had gotten past all the 'issues'. Evidently not!
I'm not interested in going to the wedding to make him feel awkward or to see my 'competition' squirm - she won. She got everything I ever wanted in speed of lightening time, and now I can't even celebrate a good friend of mines wedding because of this.
I've tried to call and text him to discuss the reasons why he has requested my presence not to be there but rather conveniently he has now chosen to ignore my calls. I feel a bit sad that he thinks it's ok to pick up a friendship with me just when he needs help with something, if this isn't the case it's certainly how it feels right now.
I really don't know what happened and why he has turned sour grapes on me, but what I do know is that sometimes he takes an interest in the blog and reading about what a miserable love life he has caused me. I'm hoping he might read this one and just maybe understand that whilst I am still on my own it's not because i'm still lusting after him, it's because i've made a choice and not just settled because I feel I have to.
Perhaps then he might rethink his decision........................
Thursday, 31 March 2011
Nothing New
Well since the English version of mini me gave me the evening of my life (or not) I haven't been on any dates. I seem to have given up the search for my special someone, a friend said she thinks her someone somewhere has been hit by a bus and that's why she didn't find him. Personally I think mine got on the wrong bus and is somewhere settling for second best!
Sadly my partner in crime also lost Mr Perfect, once again all was not what it seemed and she's back on the meat market too.
Both successful woman and both unlucky in love!
Even the dating site messages have dried up, I think i've either ignored or dated everyone on it now and I'm still no closer to finding 'him'
Anyone that has shown an interest seems to blow hot and cold and I don't know whether its friendship or if it will ever be anything more.
I'm now almost halfway through my second year of being single and I'm bored! I'm bored of being single and I'm bored of looking too! Lots of weddings and lots of babies are around me this year. Well I have neither but what I do have is a very tasty bottle of disarrano, I'm off to let that keep me company!
Sadly my partner in crime also lost Mr Perfect, once again all was not what it seemed and she's back on the meat market too.
Both successful woman and both unlucky in love!
Even the dating site messages have dried up, I think i've either ignored or dated everyone on it now and I'm still no closer to finding 'him'
Anyone that has shown an interest seems to blow hot and cold and I don't know whether its friendship or if it will ever be anything more.
I'm now almost halfway through my second year of being single and I'm bored! I'm bored of being single and I'm bored of looking too! Lots of weddings and lots of babies are around me this year. Well I have neither but what I do have is a very tasty bottle of disarrano, I'm off to let that keep me company!
Wednesday, 23 March 2011
An update actually about me!
I thought it was about time I wrote an update on my actual dating life considering this blog was started all about my experience of the dating world it's been quite a long time since I actually wrote anything about myself!
This date was actually quite a few weeks ago but I think it's too good not to write about. I'd met the guy on the wonderfully weird dating site, he looked really cute, seemed really nice and we appeared to have loads in common. We arranged to meet and I was really excited...........
It started badly as I was 20 minutes late! The dam taxi didn't turn up for ages, what an awful first impression to make!
Anyway I arrive and I'm looking around and can't see him, what I should have done is look down and I would have seen that I was faced with quite possibly the shortest man in the world! Mini me eat your heart out!
He looked nothing like his picture and I was very quickly realising I shouldn't have bothered going to the effort of looking nice!
We go into the pub and sit down (well we had to as we looked really odd together) we start chatting and not only was he the shortest but it's possible he was also the quietest man in the world! Me having downed a couple of drinks beforehand and on another glass of wine decide that I didn't really care what I said and told him he was actually the quietest man ever! He responded by saying he was afraid to speak, god this was going well. In order to salvage something of the evening I decided the only thing to do was to get drunk, and by god did I get drunk! To the point I was slurring my words and struggling to put one foot in front of the other by the end of the evening!!!!
So I go home and think I have escaped the conversation 'it's not you, it's me' (it was him but i'm not that mean) only to receive a text message which went a little something like this "Oh my god, I had an AMAZING night, I knew you were different right from the moment I saw you. I really like you and hope you like me. Please can I see you again"
Were we on the same date?????
The following day I received another text "I really missed you today" WTF! I'd only been in his life for 3 hours which I can barely remember and he missed me!
I was quite quickly realising I might actually have met my very own new stalker but no matter what I said he just wasn't getting the hint. All week long he sent txt after txt (including the classic drunk text) this was the one that finally sent me over the edge, 00:34 in the morning on a week night! I was not impressed at all with this one, and after this he certainly understood in no uncertain terms that it wasn't going to happen! He took it surprisingly well, as according to a certain social networking site status update that same afternoon he'd been out on a walk with a certain someone!
Short, Quiet and a Womaniser, I missed out on a proper catch with that one
This date was actually quite a few weeks ago but I think it's too good not to write about. I'd met the guy on the wonderfully weird dating site, he looked really cute, seemed really nice and we appeared to have loads in common. We arranged to meet and I was really excited...........
It started badly as I was 20 minutes late! The dam taxi didn't turn up for ages, what an awful first impression to make!
Anyway I arrive and I'm looking around and can't see him, what I should have done is look down and I would have seen that I was faced with quite possibly the shortest man in the world! Mini me eat your heart out!
He looked nothing like his picture and I was very quickly realising I shouldn't have bothered going to the effort of looking nice!
We go into the pub and sit down (well we had to as we looked really odd together) we start chatting and not only was he the shortest but it's possible he was also the quietest man in the world! Me having downed a couple of drinks beforehand and on another glass of wine decide that I didn't really care what I said and told him he was actually the quietest man ever! He responded by saying he was afraid to speak, god this was going well. In order to salvage something of the evening I decided the only thing to do was to get drunk, and by god did I get drunk! To the point I was slurring my words and struggling to put one foot in front of the other by the end of the evening!!!!
So I go home and think I have escaped the conversation 'it's not you, it's me' (it was him but i'm not that mean) only to receive a text message which went a little something like this "Oh my god, I had an AMAZING night, I knew you were different right from the moment I saw you. I really like you and hope you like me. Please can I see you again"
Were we on the same date?????
The following day I received another text "I really missed you today" WTF! I'd only been in his life for 3 hours which I can barely remember and he missed me!
I was quite quickly realising I might actually have met my very own new stalker but no matter what I said he just wasn't getting the hint. All week long he sent txt after txt (including the classic drunk text) this was the one that finally sent me over the edge, 00:34 in the morning on a week night! I was not impressed at all with this one, and after this he certainly understood in no uncertain terms that it wasn't going to happen! He took it surprisingly well, as according to a certain social networking site status update that same afternoon he'd been out on a walk with a certain someone!
Short, Quiet and a Womaniser, I missed out on a proper catch with that one
Monday, 14 March 2011
The partner in crime over and out...... For now!
Well the wonderful lady who has been supplying me with her own fantastic dating experiences will be bowing out of the limelight for what will hopefully be for quite some time. She's met a man............................................
Her first date with what seems to be the perfect guy lasted 8, yes 8 hours!!!!!!!
The location...... IKEA in Bristol!!! What a romantic setting, but I tell you what, after this I think I might take myself up there and hang around the entrance seeing what hot single totty wonders on through.
They have now had 3 dates and this guy just seems to be getting better and better, below a quote from our lovely ex dating companion.
"He makes my heart skip a beat and gives me massive exciting butterflys when I see him but you know me I don't show him any of this (good girl, play it cool)! I have been completly surprised by him and I think for the mean time I have had my faith restored in mankind just maybe there is the odd good guy but we will see"
I'm soooooooooooo pleased for the lovely lady and really hope this one's for keeps for her.
I have enquired whether there any single exact copies of this amazing, too good to be true man alas I think he's a one off!
Her first date with what seems to be the perfect guy lasted 8, yes 8 hours!!!!!!!
The location...... IKEA in Bristol!!! What a romantic setting, but I tell you what, after this I think I might take myself up there and hang around the entrance seeing what hot single totty wonders on through.
They have now had 3 dates and this guy just seems to be getting better and better, below a quote from our lovely ex dating companion.
"He makes my heart skip a beat and gives me massive exciting butterflys when I see him but you know me I don't show him any of this (good girl, play it cool)! I have been completly surprised by him and I think for the mean time I have had my faith restored in mankind just maybe there is the odd good guy but we will see"
I'm soooooooooooo pleased for the lovely lady and really hope this one's for keeps for her.
I have enquired whether there any single exact copies of this amazing, too good to be true man alas I think he's a one off!
Another prime example!
My partner in crime has provided me with another prime example of just what we are working with! This is not her own experience but that of a friends, the blog material is coming in from all over the world now so keep them coming (ok maybe not the world but it sounds good doesn't it)
The friend had been single for a while and wasn't really interested in men but she decided to put herself on a dating website...she got chatting to this guy that she liked and they swapped numbers etc and orgainsed a date as you do.
For the date they spent the day together, he picked her up in the morning and they went to he zoo, had lunch and went on to play crazy golf..They had a fab day and she didnt get home until about 9pm, brave girl - an all day date!
They carried on talking and texting all week and she was meant to go down to Cornwall to stay with him for the weekend, everything appeared to be going very well, flowing as it should do then on the Friday she got a text (a classic get out, no call or face to face but a god dam text) saying " hi ya I really need to tell you something, I am gunna have to cancel the weekend, I am not one to date 2 people at the same time and I have had to make a choice and its not you" The cheating so and so couldn't even be bothered to give her the time of day to spell the words properly!!!!
This just re-inforces every single doubt I have about the male species and meeting someone new. It actually frightens me that people are so different to my ex! Everything I knew and felt comfortable with gone, and in it's place a feeling of uncertainty and lack of trust. Wonderful!
The friend had been single for a while and wasn't really interested in men but she decided to put herself on a dating website...she got chatting to this guy that she liked and they swapped numbers etc and orgainsed a date as you do.
For the date they spent the day together, he picked her up in the morning and they went to he zoo, had lunch and went on to play crazy golf..They had a fab day and she didnt get home until about 9pm, brave girl - an all day date!
They carried on talking and texting all week and she was meant to go down to Cornwall to stay with him for the weekend, everything appeared to be going very well, flowing as it should do then on the Friday she got a text (a classic get out, no call or face to face but a god dam text) saying " hi ya I really need to tell you something, I am gunna have to cancel the weekend, I am not one to date 2 people at the same time and I have had to make a choice and its not you" The cheating so and so couldn't even be bothered to give her the time of day to spell the words properly!!!!
This just re-inforces every single doubt I have about the male species and meeting someone new. It actually frightens me that people are so different to my ex! Everything I knew and felt comfortable with gone, and in it's place a feeling of uncertainty and lack of trust. Wonderful!
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